Your Soul Food Friday for July 25th 2014: Keep it Wild and Magical!

Happy Soul Food for Friday July 25th!

This week: Keep it Wild and Magical


  • It is NOT Magic to the Magician!
  • 14 Simple Strategies to Be Wildly Positive:
  • The BLT (Bear Lion Tiger) They might just be the most adorable sandwich ever!

NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC WILD……….HOLD ON TO YOUR HATS………THIS IS FANTASTIC It is NOT Magic to the Magician! THE BLT (Bear, Lion and Tiger) – Click here!

14 Simple Strategies to Be Wildly Positive:

Those who have read The Positive Dog often ask me where the inspiration for the book came from. It was inspired by the story about a man who travels to a village to speak to the wise man. He says to the wise man, “I feel like there are two dogs inside me. One dog is positive, loving, kind and optimistic and then I have this fearful, pessimistic, angry and negative dog and they fight all the time. I don’t know who is going to win.” The wise man thinks for a moment and responds, “I know who is going to win. The one you feed the most. So feed the positive dog.” We all have a positive and negative dog inside of us. It’s part of our human nature. The key is to feed the positive dog and starve the negative dog. The more we feed the positive dog the bigger it gets and the stronger it becomes. The actions are simple. We just need to make them a habit and do them every day. Here are a few ways to feed the positive dog:

  1. Practice Gratitude – You can’t be stressed and thankful at the same time. Gratitude is like muscle, the more you exercise it the stronger it gets. Take 10 minutes each day and make a list of what you are thankful for. You will fill your body and brain with costless and priceless anti-depressants.
  2. Take a Walk of Gratitude – I do this each morning and it feeds me all day long.
  3. Turn off the News – Starve the negative dog.
  4. Smile More – It enhances your serotonin levels and uplifts you.
  5. Focus on Get to vs Have toRead the article here.
  6. Read uplifting books or devotionals.
  7. Get together with a positive, uplifting person.
  8. Reach Out – Call or visit someone who has made a difference in your life and thank them. (research shows this is a huge happiness booster)
  9. Write a few Thank You Notes Today – When you thank others you feed them and yourself.
  10. Watch a funny movie that makes you belly laugh.
  11. Take out your Telescope – I often talk about a telescope when encouraging people to create a big-picture vision for their future and dream about the life they want to create. The telescope represents our dream for the future and, according to Barbara Fredrickson, research shows this is a simple way to boost positivity. Today dream about your future and it will feed you with positivity now.
  12. Be a Coach – Coaches bring out the best in others. The best coaches mentor, encourage, praise, inspire, and lead with optimism and positivity. Today, feed others and yourself with positivity by being a coach.
  13. Start a Success Journal – Write down the one great thing about your day. The more you look for success, the more you will find it.
  14. Decide to Make a Difference – When you help other people with their problems you forget about your own.

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Glenda O, and those of us keeping it Wild and Magical! Learn from (your inner) Nature & Pay it Forward! Love, Neville

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” - Omar Khayyam -


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Your Soul Food Friday for July 18th 2014

Happy Soul Food for Friday!

This week:

  • Word/Pictures that Say it All
  • Transformation
  • Encourage Girls!
  • 6 Mindful Practices for the Leader in All of Us
  • Friends!

Click here to see pictures that say it all!

Transformation – A Podcast we were featured in recently…

Encourage Girls!

Click here to read about 6 mindful practices for the leader in all of us


friendshuggingFriends … They love you, But they’re not your lover

They care for you, But they’re not from your family

They’re ready to share your pain, But they’re not your blood relation.

They are … FRIENDS! !!!!

A True friend…
Scolds like a DAD
Cares like a
Teases like a
Irritates like a
And finally loves you more than a

For more adorable pics, click here!

The nicest place to be is in someone’s  THOUGHTS!

The safest place to be is in someone’s PRAYERS!

And the best place to be is in GOD’S HANDS!

spiral colors

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Alan D, Heidi E and YOU for extending yourself in Love and Soulfulness!

Pay it Forward!



“The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the best of everything they have.”


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Your Soul Food Friday for July 11th 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday! 

This week:

Pure Wisdom

               Life lessons worth Learning

My Preschooler is Smarter than Your College Student

               Well not mine but ours…

Radical Collaboration

Shouldn’t we stop talking about it and start Doing it?

Strategic Doing

               Leveraging radical collaboration, design thinking, strengths based foci, and the power of networks

12 Habit of Productive People

               Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort

If you are local: Love the World All Over

Breakthrough To Your Divine Feminine! (Exclusively for Women Only)  on July 12th

Breakthrough To Your Masculine Freedom! (Exclusively for Men Only)  on July 19th

World Tour: Spectacular Cajas National Park in an Inter-Andean Valley

The only biosphere in the world stretching from salt-water mangroves to mountain paramo at 14,000 feet

Pure wisdom:

Click here!

My Preschooler is Smarter than Your College Student

Well not mine but ours…

Radical Collaboration- Shouldn’t we stop talking about it and start Doing it?

“Strategic doing”

Leveraging radical collaboration, design thinking, strengths based foci, and the power of networks

Click here to read some Daily Good News That Inspires!

If you are local: Click this.

World Tour: Spectacular Cajas National Park in an Inter-Andean Valley

The only biosphere in the world stretching from salt-water mangroves to mountain paramo at 14,000 feet

Dear Friends,

I snuck in a photo trip to southern Ecuador a few weeks ago with my friend Steve Schutz, and and I’ve been remiss not sharing a few of the images. This set is from Cajas Park, which is now within the much larger Cajas Biosphere. Fabián Rodes of Nature and Culture Intl. was instrumental in putting together the biosphere last year from his Cuenca office. He assembled over 30 institutions to make it happen — not an easy task. Fabián was our guide for 7 edenic days.

Click here!

Thanks this week go to Larry H, Alan D, Charles S and Soul-filled lovers of life everywhere!

Pay it forward…



“The main thing I want someone to walk away with is that life doesn’t have to be hardwork, driving ambition,and exacting plans. 

If our inner nature is the nature of the universe,why do we have to struggle?” 

–Deepak Chopra


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Your Soul Food Friday for Independence on the Fourth of July 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday for the Fourth of July!

This week:

Other Articles of Independence: 

Inspiration- An honorable loss is better than a devious win

While many in the US are disappointed about the USA’s World Cup results, in the wisdom tradition of the martial arts we say a “honorable loss is better than a devious win”.

Here is an illustrative story that demonstrates that character and sportsmanship of self-mastery in the final analysis are where real competition resides- not with an external opponent but with your best self!

This article made my day and I loved reading about this remarkable and inspiring incident.

Our true character is often tested in spontaneous moments like this.


On December 2, Basque athlete Iván Fernández Anaya was competing in a cross-country race in Burlada, Navarre. He was running second, some distance behind race leader Abel Mutai – bronze medalist in the 3,000-meter steeplechase at the London Olympics. As they entered the finishing straight, he saw the Kenyan runner – the certain winner of the race – mistakenly pull up about 10 meters before the finish, thinking he had already crossed the line.

Fernández Anaya quickly caught up with him, but instead of exploiting Mutai’s mistake to speed past and claim an unlikely victory, he stayed behind and, using gestures, guided the Kenyan to the line and let him cross first.

Ivan Fernandez Anaya, a Basque runner of 24 years who is considered an athlete with a big future (champion of Spain of 5,000 meters in promise category two years ago) said after the test:

“But even if they had told me that winning would have earned me a place in the Spanish team for the European championships, I wouldn’t have done it either. I also think that I have earned more of a name having done what I did than if I had won. And that is very important, because today, with the way things are in all circles, in soccer, in society, in politics, where it seems anything goes, a gesture of honesty goes down well.”

He said at the beginning: “unfortunately, very little has been said of the gesture. And it’s a shame. In my opinion, it would be nice to explain to children, so they do not think that sport is only what they see on TV: violent kicks in abundance, posh statements, fingers in the eyes of the enemy …” 

Leadership- Who is Your Chief Energy Officer?

Click here!

Design Thinking- Unleash your designer’s mindset beyond old school strategic thinking to manifest YOUR destiny and love your work and life (Podcast)

Resilience and Reframing- Memorialize Life and Celebrate the Inevitable; How A Women’s Plan to Kill Herself Helped Her Family Grieve

Volunteering- Doing Good is Good for YOU!



Humor- Never Lose Your Sense of It

This is pretty funny!


Thanks this week go to Cindy S, Sean A, NPR, Jimmy P, Alan D and Larry H!

Pay it Forward and Celebrate your Independence…




“I’ve realized that worry is the product of a future that we cannot guarantee,

and guilt is the product of a past we cannot change” –Shailene Woodley

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Surprise Yourself: Your Summer Soul Food for Friday June 27th 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday!

Surprise Yourself


This week:

Mysteries of the Unseen World:

This is amazing photography and brilliantly explained.  We live in a
world of un-seeable beauty, so subtle and delicate that it is imperceptible
to the human eye. To bring this invisible world to light, filmmaker Louie
Schwartzberg bends the boundaries of time and space with high-speed cameras,
time lapses and microscopes. At TED2014, he shares highlights from his
latest project, a 3D film titled “Mysteries of the Unseen World,” which
slows down, speeds up, and magnifies the astonishing wonders of nature. Enjoy…

Slip Sliding Away:

This takes the Slip and Slide to a Whole Other Level!

Human Ingenuity at its best:

Some Out Of the BOX thinking

This NGO created as a Community Service Centre for marginalized families in urban slum and rural areas, Aarambh, wanted to help students who  are not as privileged, with basic facilities, in order for them to  be more comfortable at school. Most schools in Indian rural areas have two basic problems:

1) The schools didn’t have proper desks, which led to poor eyesight and a hunched back leading to bad posture and bad writing.
2) The students didn’t have school bags.
They came up with a solution which tackled both these problems at one go.
To make the portable desks they used discarded cartons which are economical and easily available. They then used a pre-set stencil design, which when cut and folded, created a slick desk which also served as a school bag. Amazing!

Make YOUR Life Into A Masterpiece:

Vision + Design = The Blueprint for the One Masterpiece that you will Create…

 Make Your Life into a Masterpiece

The most important masterpiece you’ll ever create is your life. But to create your masterpiece you must first design it. You must have a vision of what it looks like. Once you have a vision and design it you can begin the process of building it.

To help you with your design you can ask questions such as:

What does your life look like when you are at your healthiest, strongest, and best?

What does your family situation look like while you are pursuing success in your work?

What matters most?

What priorities drive you each day?

What are you doing that makes you come alive?

What are you born to do?

What are you doing to live and share your purpose?

When you look back on your life what do you want to be able to say about it?

How do you want to feel?

What will you have wanted to accomplish?

What legacy will you have left?

I asked these questions at the peak of my unhappiness 13 years ago and realized that instead of creating my masterpiece I was building a piece of a junk. Over a period of a few weeks filled with a lot of walks and prayer the answers to these questions came to me and I began the process of designing and building my life as a writer.

For some the answers to these questions may lead you to a new career. However, for most, it will simply lead to changes that will align your life with the vision and design you have for it. For example you may need to exercise more and eat healthier to create your masterpiece. Or perhaps you may need to spend more time with your family because your masterpiece includes great relationships with your kids. Or you might realize that you are not spending enough time on your priorities and therefore your masterpiece is not developing like it should. Whatever your masterpiece looks like, your design will help you see what you need to do, or stop doing, in order to create it.

I also want to caution you to make sure you are building your masterpiece and not someone else’s idea of what your masterpiece should be. I know this well. My mom always wanted me to be an attorney. I planned on going to law school after college. When I didn’t get into law school, because my LSAT score was so poor, I gave up on the idea of being a lawyer. However, after getting my masters in teaching, opening several restaurants and running for city council of Atlanta at the age of 26 my mom’s vision for me still stuck with me. I ended up going to law school in Atlanta for a year and a half. But while taking my second year exams I had this strong feeling that there was something else for me. I stood up and walked out on my final exams and never looked back.

I recently spoke to a school where the wife of my friend from law school is the principal. My friend said when I walked out of the law school exams no one could believe it. He said it was legendary. But I don’t think it was legendary to quit. What I think is legendary is when someone stops trying to create someone else’s masterpiece and instead focuses on designing and creating the masterpiece they are meant to build.

You have one masterpiece to create and I want to encourage you to design and build YOUR masterpiece, not someone else’s.

I also want to encourage you to stay positive as you move from the design phase to the building phase. You will face challenges during the building process but always remember, negative thoughts are the nails that build a prison of failure, but positive thoughts will build you a masterpiece.

Stay flexible and adaptable through the process. It’s okay for your plans to change, especially when your plans must give way to the ultimate creator’s master plan.

And lastly, make sure you choose the right habits because what you do each day will become who you are. Your habits will transform your design, vision and plans into the masterpiece of your life.

Celebrating a Past Mission Fed Board Member- John Daily

This past I was privileged to be part of a donation to the American Cancer Society on behalf of long time Board member John Daily


Here are the poignant comments current Board member Ken Clark shared about John and his contributions…

John Daily used his wise counsel and gentle nature to help guide Mission Fed as a 21 year member of its Board of Directors – serving 2 – two year terms as Chair while our credit union grew from $121 million in assets with 29,000 members to $1.8 billion with 129,000 members at his retirement in 2008.

Dr. Daily brought honor to his beloved alma mater, USC, as he brought his best to everything he took on from Assistant Superintendent of San Dieguito Schools for 30 years, Board member of Mission Fed, Master Gardener with the San Diego Horticultural Society, volunteer with Quail Gardens, San Diego Fair & Solana Beach schools, and – most importantly – husband and father.

He was a smart, honorable, and generous man and I consider it an honor to have been one of his many friends.

Today’s donation to the American Cancer Society is to honor his memory.

This was a truly touching Mission Moment…

Enhance your personal brand with bling that is human-centered and soul-filled…

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What is There to Say About the Dog:

Dogs have long ago stopped being just animals. To us, a dog is also a symbol – A symbol of endless loyalty, of love given without asking for it to be returned. We look to the dog and hope to find its strength and love in us. We look to the dog and learn how to be true friends and true members of a loving family.

Those of us who have had dogs in our lives, know that there is much to say about this wonderful animal, and so we bring you a few touching and oh-so-true quotes on the matter.

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Thanks this week go to Larry H, Mohit M, John D and Ken C, Sara at Compassion IT, and sweet pets everywhere including our black lab Kailee!

Pay it forward…



“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future;
it is something you design for the present.”
— Jim Rohn

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Steamy Soul Food for Summer Solstice, Sorolla in San Diego & Celebrants by the SEA

Happy Soul Food Friday!


This week:

Tis the season for Promotions & Commencements, Longest Days of the Year, Sorolla & America, Survival of the Nicest, and Celebrating Thriving “Heart”-ists

6th Grade Promotion

Hard to believe our Daughter Aysha is done with Middle School!

We’ve gladly invested 12 years of our time, treasure and talent in the Cardiff School District, and while I won’t be disappearing anytime soon, it certainly will be different.

Here is a compelling commencement speech referenced at the promotion by Principal Brian K. featuring Admiral William McRaven at University of Texas.

Make your bed!

It does take a village and here’s to all the volunteers EVERYWHERE that make our world better.

Congrats Greta O. for being selected as the 2014 Mission 2 Volunteer by the Cardiff SEA, and choosing you to direct funds to those parts of education you care most about!


2nd Annual True Triton Brunch

UCSD Celebrated another amazing Alumni Weekend, growing to over 150,000 alum making their mark around the world

Whatever your Alma Mater, here’s to “straight A’s” of a different sort:

—   Appreciation: Looking back, I hope you to feel darn good about what you did and how you felt in the time you invested in the causes that matter most to YOU

—  Affiliation: In this present moment, right now, I hope you feel deeply connected to and valued by your community- Thank you for all you have done

—  Agency: Looking forward, WITH YOUR HELP, we are creating a better world for those that follow through our agency

Be the Thriving “Heart”-ist You Were Destined to Be!

What We Can Learn from the Tortured Artist Van Gogh

If you are local, get to Balboa Park!

Sorolla and America

This fine exhibition at the San Diego Museum of Art and organized by Blanca Pons-Sorolla, the artist’s great-granddaughter, brings together masterpieces seen for the first time in America and Madrid and are truly awe inspiring! (see Sorolla quote at the end…)


Another Theory of Evolution- Survival of the Nicest

We simply can’t solve today’s complex problems with yesterday’s notions of competition and zero sum games…

Where to Find and Cultivate True Power in an Organization

Unleash the latent power of social capital and informal networks (eco-systems v. ego-systems) & keep the change!

USA Annual Philanthropy Numbers On the Rise: Giving Nears Pre-Recession Levels

No it’s not the Foundations and Corporations, but once again Individual Contributions that disproportionately contribute 73% of the growth to the 2% of GDP that constitutes giving in this country

A Real Man?

15 Ways to Show You’re a (Real) Man

Obviously, I am not one… :)

Click here!

Thanks for this week’s contributions of content and energy go to Brian K & the Cardiff School District, Greta O & the SEA, Mission Fed for steadfastly supporting Education, Suzanne B, Jim L & Tritons everywhere, Deirdre M, Bettina H, Frank P, Alan D, and the indefatigable Larry H!

Congrats Graduates!

Rightly understood, today is commencement for every one of us.

Pay it forward…



“Go to nature with no parti pris.

You should not know what your picture is to look like until it is done.

Just see the picture that is coming.”


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Soul Food for Lucky Friday June 13th 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday!


This week:

An Unsung Hero:

Why You Hate Work: The way we’re working isn’t working…

What Dr. Alan Daly and I have to say about Being a Purpose Driven Leader and Making Our Work- Work Better:

Why GoPro’s Founder and Fellow UC San Diego Alum Does Not Hate His Work:

One of the most important things we can do in our organizations is routinely innovate!

If you are not familiar with human centered design thinking (compared to strategic planning) this will change your mindset

EVERYBODY is Creative. It is not about teaching creativity, it is about removing the blocks…

The Fault in Our Stars- My Heroine

For Young People Who Sometimes Feel Alone.

Fostering Uncommon Empathy in Teenagers…

Some Awesome Pictures to Re-Spark Your Wonder:

Click here!

Thanks this week go to Alan D, Team UC San Diego Alumni, NPR and Larry H

Pay it Forward!



“Wonder is the beginning of wisdom.”
Greek Proverb

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