Your Holiday Soul Food Friday for Dec 19th 2014

“There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.”— Albert Einstein:

Dolphins

This week:

Your Holiday List: If you are working on the Holiday list, this one should give you some inspiration

 Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracles: Serve our Youth in America’s Finest and Kindest City

 Banks Supporting their Communities-This is Cool

 Wash Me for Cancer:

 Honor Our Elders: Here’s to resilience and a youthful state of mind and the inspiration it brings!

Enjoy this Holiday Card from All of Us at Mission Fed

 Your Holiday List:

If you are working on the Holiday list, this one should give you some inspiration

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“The most incredible thing about miracles
is that they happen.”
— G.K. Chesterton

Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracles:

Serve our Youth in America’s Finest and Kindest City

In the last week, we were blessed to support the Rady Children’s Holiday of Miracle Campaign for the 5th year in a row.

I will never forget the day we had to take an ambulance from our pediatrician to Children’s Hospital when our child couldn’t breathe.

In a single breath everything changes…

Every year Rady Children’s provides care to 200,000 kids as the go-to-facility for 88% of the kids in San Diego (and many from Orange and Riverside) county, where more than 50% of the families do not have the wherewithal to pay for their care, yet no one is turned away….

Mission Fed does a matching pledge every year, our staff runs the phone banks, and we get on the air to help create awareness of and support for this important cause which we helped re-imagine and rename 5 years ago.

The day we were in doing the live radio-thon, there were 294 kids in the hospital, 28 for cancer or blood disorders, 66 in the medical/surgical unit, 23 in neonatal intensive care, 33 in critical care to mention just a few, and 270 children had visited the ER in the last 24 hours!

We got to hear Athena’s story about her daughter Eve (pictured below), and as a result of the Mission Fed matching offer a KyXy listener named Geneva made a $1,000 call in pledge, along with so many other generous callers.

Through the collective support of our 5th Annual Holiday of Miracles Radiothon we raised $284,000, which brings the grand total to more than $1,384,000 in five years!

These funds go to support the highest and greatest needs of the hospital which include patient care, technology, equipment and research.

Thanks to all of you that do great work to help our kids stay safe and well, and to the CBS Radio team that puts energy and passion into amplifying this cause every year.

Examples of partnership like this validate that we are indeed America’s Finest and Kindest City!

If you would like to make a tax deductible contribution, before the campaign ends this week , please visit www.KyXy.com

Ways To Donate: Phone: 1.800.258.0007

www.helpsdkids.org/holidayofmiracles

Rady

Banks Supporting their Communities- This is Cool

by Paul Greeley

How do you feel about banks?

I know, not a subject that stirs deep emotion. If you feel anything, it might be irritation every time you have to withdraw your cash and you have to pay that $3 fee when you can’t find your bank’s ATM.

And what about bank advertising? Seen any good bank TV ads lately? Yeah, I know.

But here’s something different from TD Bank. It selected 24 mostly random customers and offered them an average amount of $30,000 each to go out and do something good for their community. Start now and you have 24 hours.

What would you do with the money?


Wash me for Cancer:

(a) WASH ME?  or

(b) Do a  pretty drawing?

Scott Wade

THIS is SCOTT WADE. Check out what he does with the

dirty cars by carefully and artfully removing portions of the dirt.

According to his web site, he lives real close to a dirt road in San Marcos , Texas .

Scott Wade Examples

IN  MEMORY . . .

These  are the colors that represent the different cancers. All you are asked  to do is keep this circulating. Even if it’s to one more person. In  memory of anyone you know that has been struck by  cancer.

Ribbons

A Candle Loses Nothing by  Lighting Another Candle
Please Keep This Candle  Going!

Candle

Honor Our Elders:

Here’s to resilience a youthful state of mind and the inspiration it brings!

Growing Bolder

Enjoy this Holiday Card from All of Us at Mission Fed

 Thanks this week go to the Mission Fed in Red Crew, the CBS Radio team, the Rady Children’s team, Robin M, Scott D, Larry H, all the youth that keep us young, as well as all our elders that teach us how to live, love, learn and leave a legacy!

Pay it Forward. You Can’t Take it With YOU…

Love,

Neville

“Love your enemies and you won’t have any…”

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Your Soul Food Friday Gift for Dec 12th 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday!

As we enter the holiday season with the consumptive madness of Cyber Mondays, Black Fridays, Super Saturdays, obligatory gifts to others, measuring economic impact by how much we spent in the local malls and Amazon walls, here are some alternative gifts for you.

There was no cost to procuring them, no lines to stand in, no calculus of “should I spend more or less” -as if the amount we spend per person on our list determines their value in our system- just the time investment and care energy of curating and then presenting them to you.

If they resonate, pay them forward.

If they don’t, return to sender…

Love,

Neville

Should I Buy

Jerry Seinfeld Puts It In Perspective So Well & So Darn Honestly…

Here are those gifts:

Gift #1: A Perspective on Parenting for the Hardest Job Out There

One of the most ‘real’ article on parenting I have read in a long time…

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/scott-dannemiller/the-one-question-every-parent-should-quit-asking_b_6182248.html

Gift #2 We Wish You a Merry Future

An extraordinary and inspiring vision of the future

http://sploid.gizmodo.com/the-most-extraordinary-and-inspiring-vision-of-the-futu-1664783812/

Gift #3 The Power of Thank YOU

WHAT IF…a simple thank you goes a long way?
RESEARCH SAYS: When bosses say “thank you,” employees work 50% harder. It’s true. Thank you also results in reciprocal generosity, where the thanked person is more likely to help the ‘thanker’ and also stimulates pro-social behavior in general. In other words, saying “thanks” increases the likelihood your employee will not only help you, but also help someone else. Harvard Business Review tells of a national law firm that instilled the routine of Partners earnestly and specifically saying, “Thank you,” to staff and associates and even each other. That one change resulted in a significant drop in associate complaints, and most associates became more productive while reports of burnout all but disappeared.
TRY THIS: Give someone you work with a sincere thank you. Be sure to thank them for something specific, acknowledge their effort or personal sacrifice, and let them know what it meant personally to you.

Gift #4  Restore Your Faith in Humanity

Goodwill towards All in Human-Kind

Once Your Learn

Thanks this week go to  the Daily Good, Steve F, Anne S, Glenda O, Will M, Larry H & Helene G!

“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.”– King Solomon

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Your Soul Food Friday Gift for Dec 12th 2014

Happy Soul Food Friday!

As we enter the holiday season with the consumptive madness of Cyber Mondays, Black Fridays, Super Saturdays, obligatory gifts to others, measuring economic impact by how much we spent in the local malls and Amazon walls, here are some alternative gifts for you.

There was no cost to procuring them, no lines to stand in, no calculus of “should I spend more or less” -as if the amount we spend per person on our list determines their value in our system- just the time investment and care energy of curating and then presenting them to you.

If they resonate, pay them forward.

If they don’t, return to sender…

May the gifts you give and get this holiday season, open your heart like this!

Love,

Neville

Should I Buy

Jerry Seinfeld Puts It In Perspective So Well & So Darn Honestly…

Here are those gifts:

Gift #1: A Perspective on Parenting for the Hardest Job Out There

One of the most ‘real’ article on parenting I have read in a long time…

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/scott-dannemiller/the-one-question-every-parent-should-quit-asking_b_6182248.html

Gift #2 We Wish You a Merry Future

An extraordinary and inspiring vision of the future

http://sploid.gizmodo.com/the-most-extraordinary-and-inspiring-vision-of-the-futu-1664783812/

Gift #3 The Power of Thank YOU

WHAT IF…a simple thank you goes a long way?
RESEARCH SAYS: When bosses say “thank you,” employees work 50% harder. It’s true. Thank you also results in reciprocal generosity, where the thanked person is more likely to help the ‘thanker’ and also stimulates pro-social behavior in general. In other words, saying “thanks” increases the likelihood your employee will not only help you, but also help someone else. Harvard Business Review tells of a national law firm that instilled the routine of Partners earnestly and specifically saying, “Thank you,” to staff and associates and even each other. That one change resulted in a significant drop in associate complaints, and most associates became more productive while reports of burnout all but disappeared.
TRY THIS: Give someone you work with a sincere thank you. Be sure to thank them for something specific, acknowledge their effort or personal sacrifice, and let them know what it meant personally to you.

Gift #4  Restore Your Faith in Humanity

Goodwill towards All in Human-Kind

 

Once Your Learn

 

Thanks this week go to  the Daily Good, Steve F, Anne S, Glenda O, Will M, Larry H & Helene G!

“Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.”– King Solomon

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Your Soul Food for Dec 5th 2014: Keep the thanks giving going…

Thank yous

Keeping Thanksgiving Going…

This week, I got a handwritten note from Dr. Edward DeRoche, at the University of San Diego’s School of Education, where he previously served as dean in 1979 and returned to the faculty as professor and director of the Center for Character Development Center in 1998. We met some years ago through our shared passion for cultivating character not just competence in education…

Ed wrote,  “I wanted to sent you this note of thanks during Thanksgiving Week for “Soul Food Friday”. It is a valuable, informative resource that I have shared with my students, colleagues, family and friends. For this I thank you.”

Here Ed is esteeming me, but I should be esteeming HIM for modeling character and investing his personal time and energy in a small gesture that is a hallmark of his way of being.

Thanks for showing us how it is done Ed!

Ed

A Simple Act of Kindness Creates An Endless Ripple:

This will touch your heart…


Why Positive Emotions Fade and How to Make Them Last:

Letters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What if you put your sincere thanks into this Thanksgiving?  It’s not as easy as it sounds. By now we should all know that gratitude is a major driver of personal happiness and feelings of well-being. But the way our brains are designed tends to minimize the benefits of thankfulness. That’s because we constantly turn our positive emotions into concepts. And concepts do not make us feel happy.

Let me explain…

When we first experience positive emotions our brain stimulates the production of smile–and–be happy chemicals like dopamine and serotonin.  However, novelty is a huge driver of positive stimulation so as soon as we are used to something we were initially grateful for we quit feeling the emotion of gratitude. Without emotion-stimulating neurotransmitters our feelings of gratitude decay into concepts. We know we should feel happy or should feel love but we just don’t really feel those feelings.   For instance if I ask someone I’m advising “What are you most grateful for?”  Their automatic response is almost always “my family.”  But when I ask them if seeing their family on a daily basis puts them in a positive mood I get a questioning look.   Of course, families who have been separated for long periods of time, for instance military families, often experience elevated positive emotions when they’re reunited. But when life normalizes and we return to our routines those things we take for granted no longer give us a happy high. That’s because unmet needs are powerfully motivating and very emotional. As soon as those needs are consistently satisfied our motivations and emotions tend to wither.   Fortunately for us, positive psychologists have done a great deal of research about how we can rekindle the emotion of gratitude so that we can feel our feelings rather than just think about them.

Here’s an experiment I’d like you to try:

  1. This Thanksgiving ask yourself… who is one person that has really enriched your life.
  2. Next take a few minutes and write down the specific ways you have benefited from the love, kindness, actions or knowledge this person has provided.
  3. Write down the positive impact and results you have received that you would not have gained without this person’s effort.
  4. Write down what your life would be missing without this person in your life.
  5. Now, listen to some calm instrumental music for about three minutes, put a smile on your face and silently (in your own mind) thank this individual. This focused reflection should ignite deep feelings of gratitude.
  6. Finally, tell the individual how thankful you are for the love and support they have shown you. Tell them some things that you were specifically grateful for and the impact it had on your life. You can do this in person or by phone. Actually, leaving a voice message is sometimes best because it will cause your loved one to really listen to your message of gratitude.

Research on gratitude confirms that people who express gratefulness create more internal feelings of well-being than people receiving the acknowledgment. In short, if you want to feel happy, share your gratitude for others with them in vivid detail.

This has become an annual ritual for me and it has made the holiday much more significant than a few awesome football games, great food and time to relax.

It’s pretty simple… Thanksgiving should be the happiest day of the year… and it can be if we make it so.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Will

A Different Perspective on Thanks Giving:

Milton Friedman at Plymouth Rock:  When the Pilgrims came to Plymouth Rock in 1620, they tried what they called “farming in common.”  As a community, they farmed the land together and shared the food equally.  This might sound good in theory, but it was a complete failure.  Those people who worked hard resented those who didn’t.  There was a lot of anger over this, and after three winters of under-production, more than half the original 101 pilgrims were dead, mostly as a result of malnutrition.

After three years of near-starvation and the loss of half the colony, a new experiment was tried.

The governor of the colony, William Bradford, had come to suspect that the problem was the absence of private property.  In his now-famous passage on property rights in Of Plymouth Plantation(see page 120), Bradford wrote of how he “… assigned to every family a parcel of land, for (their) present use.  This had very good success, for it made all hands very industrious, and much more corn was planted than otherwise would have been by any means.”

Bradford wrote that those who believed in communal property were deluding themselves into thinking they were “wiser than God.”  (Doesn’t that sound like Hayek’s concept of the “fatal conceit?”)  He drew up a map and gave each family a plot of land to call its own.  Production increased by a factor of five the first year.  As Bradford wrote, “Each family, attempting to better its standing in the community, increased the hours worked on each plot.”

How perfect that the very foundation of America was a free market economy! And this was, amazingly, 150 years before Adam Smith wrote about how markets work.

We publish the following pretty much every year for Thanksgiving.  We got it from somewhere long forgotten, and over the years we’ve added bits and pieces:

“How’s your health?  Not so good?  Give thanks you’ve lived this long.  Are you hurting?  Millions are hurting more.  Visit a veterans’ hospital or a hospital for children to appreciate what you have.  When you woke up this morning, were you able to hear the birds sing, use your voice, walk to the breakfast table, read the paper?  There are a lot of people today who are deaf, blind, paralyzed, or unable to speak.

How are your finances?  Not good?  Most people on this planet have no welfare.  No food stamps.  No pensions.  No health insurance or Social Security.  In fact, one third of the people in the world go to bed hungry every night.

Are you lonely?  The way to have a friend is to be a friend.  If nobody calls, call someone.  Get out and do something nice for someone.  Are you unhappy?  Go out of your way to smile at people you bump into during the day.  Be kind to everyone, for everyone you meet might be fighting a hard, lonely battle of some kind. Are you unhappy with our government?  Don’t despair.  Our system has been saved over and over again by people who worried about our nation.  And worry not.  You can still worship at the place of your choice, cast a ballot in secret, and criticize your government.  Hundreds of millions of people live where this is not the case, where criticizing the government leads to a midnight knock on the door. Are you worried about over-regulation?  Be thankful that with hard work and persistence, it’s still possible to get ahead in America.  And let us also be thankful for our troublemakers and agitators, people like Patrick Henry, Tom Paine, John Brown, Susan B. Anthony, and Martin Luther King.  Without them, we’d be a lesser country.

We should be thankful for the food before us and we remember those who go without food.  We should be thankful for the friends we have and remember those who are friendless.  We should be thankful for our health and remember those with poor health.  We should be thankful for our families, imperfect though they might be, and remember those without families.

Let us be thankful for what we have, and not be unhappy with what we don’t have.  Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

NATURE NEVER GIVES UP

Never Give Up

Thanks this week to Sue S, Heidi E, Ed D, Will M, David R, Larry H, and all of you that model character!

Stay Soul-filled and Pay it Forward…

Love,

Neville

“There is all the difference in the world between having something to say and having to say something.” — John Dewey

 

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Your Soul Food Friday for Thanksgiving Week: Nov 28th 2014

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This week:

Giving Thanks and Being Grateful:

Happiness IS Contagious- 3 Degrees of Connection

Focus on the Green Lights in Life and Be Creative about the Red lights

Humor:

Don’t Mess with Seniors

Creativity:

Join the Counter Culture Right Now:              

The EPIC Photo Shoot

MOMENTS in History

Giving Thanks and Being Grateful

It is well documented that it is hard to be hateful and grateful at the same time.

I hope as you read this, you can find something to be grateful for- however trite or profound- and then maintain an Attitude of Gratitude all year long!

Attitudes are contagious. Is mine worth catching?

Happiness is Contagious:

6 Reasons to Smile Right Now

Jennifer Margulis

So much more than a pair of upturned lips, the smile is the most scientifically studied human facial expression. In her new book, Lip Service, Yale psychology professor Marianne LaFrance, PhD, draws on the latest research—in fields from biology to anthropology to computer science—in an effort to shed some light on the happy face. Here, six facts that may make you, well, you know.

People with big grins live longer. In a study published last year, researchers pored over an old issue of the Baseball Register, analyzing photos of 230 players. They found that on average, the guys with bright, bigmouthed beams lived 4.9 years longer than the players with partial smiles, and 7 years longer than the players who showed no grin at all. We can’t credit wide smiles for long life spans, of course, but smiles reveal positive feelings, and positive feelings are linked to well-being.

Smiles exert subliminal powers. When study subjects are shown an image of a smiling face for just four milliseconds—a flash so quick, the viewers don’t consciously register the image—they experience a mini emotional high. Compared with control groups, the smile-viewers perceive the world in a better light: To them, boring material is more interesting, neutral images look more positive, even bland drinks seem tastier.

There are three degrees of happiness… An article in the British Medical Journal reported that it is indeed possible to spread the love: Within social networks, when one person is happy, the feeling migrates to two people beyond her. So if you smile, a friend of a friend is more likely to smile, too

. …and two types of smiles. Genuine smiles and fake smiles are governed by two separate neural pathways. We know this is true because people with damage to a certain part of the brain can still break into a spontaneous grin even though they’re unable to smile at will. Scientists speculate that our ancestors evolved the neural circuitry to force smiles because it was evolutionarily advantageous to mask their fear and fury.

To spot a faker, check the eyes. When someone smiles out of genuine delight, a facial muscle called the orbicularis oculi involuntarily contracts, crinkling the skin around the eyes. Most of us are incapable of deliberately moving this muscle, which means that when a person fakes a smile, her orbicularis oculi likely won’t budge.

Smiles have accents. When reading facial expressions, different cultures home in on different parts of the face. In the United States, we focus on mouths; the Japanese, by contrast, search for feeling in the eyes. These emoticons say it all:

happy sad

How Happiness Is Contagious

By Tim Jarvis

“Six degrees of separation” isn’t just a good plot line. Science shows the theory has dramatic implications for spreading cheer from one person to the next.

The theory that everyone on the planet is only a half dozen people away from knowing everyone else was popularized by John Guare’s 1993 movie Six Degrees of Separation. Now research by a pair of social scientists might have Hollywood thinking of a sequel: Three Degrees of Connection.

Using statistical analyses of thousands of subjects, a study in The British Medical Journal has shown that happiness actually spreads from person to person, up to three connections away. “So if your friend’s friend’s friend becomes happier, it ripples through the network and affects you, even if you don’t know that person,” says author Nicholas Christakis, MD, a medical sociology professor at Harvard Medical School. Proximity plays a part: A happy sibling who is a mile away can increase your probability of happiness by up to 14 percent; a nearby friend, by 25 percent; and a next-door neighbor, by 34 percent. Interestingly, the effect also applies to smoking and obesity, Christakis has shown. “If people around you gain weight, it changes your expectations about what an acceptable body size is,” he explains. “Our work strongly suggests that when one person quits smoking, loses weight, or becomes happy, others around her follow suit. I am reluctant to suggest you pick your friends solely on this basis, but one could say that helping a friend do better is a roundabout way of helping yourself.”

Focus on the Green Lights in Life and Be Creative about the Red lights:

While we often miss them due to attentional blindness,  it is useful to focus on the Green Lights in our life.

If we are in a hurry, we sure remember all the red lights we hit, but blitz through the green lights with nary a thought…

Here are some smart traffic lights that make something out of red, while you have to do your own part to make something out of green…

stop walk

We all hate waiting. That is why many pedestrians don’t have the patience to wait at the traffic light, preferring to cross whenever they deem fit. To increase pedestrian safety, an idea was born: What if we make the red pedestrian traffic light so entertaining, people would be happy waiting? Here is what happened with that idea.

Don’t Mess with Seniors:

A 65-year-old man walked into a crowded waiting room and approached the desk.

The Receptionist said, ‘Yes sir, what are you seeing the Doctor for today?’

‘There’s something wrong with my penis, he replied.

The receptionist became irritated and said,

‘You shouldn’t come into a crowded waiting room and say things like that. ‘

‘Why not, you asked me what was wrong and I told you,’ he said.

The Receptionist replied; ‘Now you’ve caused some embarrassment in this room full of people. You should have said there is something wrong with your ear or something and discussed the problem further with the Doctor in private.’

The man replied, ‘You shouldn’t ask people questions in a roomful of strangers, if the answer could embarrass anyone. The man walked out, waited several minutes, and then re-entered.

The Receptionist smiled smugly and asked, ‘Yes?’

‘There’s something wrong with my ear,’ he stated.

The Receptionist nodded approvingly and smiled, knowing he had taken her advice..    ‘And what is wrong with your ear, Sir?’

‘I can’t pee out of it,’ he replied.

The waiting room erupted in laughter…    Don’t Mess With Seniors!

YOU KNOW YOU’RE LAUGHING!

Join the Counter Culture Right Now:

My buddy Jack Abbott is launching a new product on Kickstarter, and he has asked me for our help.  He’s working on a project to help change the way we feed ourselves sustainably on this planet, and an easy first step is CounterCrop, which helps anyone grow great fresh veggies on their kitchen counter.

Here is a link to a short, fun video that explains how it works. CounterCrop launches on Kickstarter on December 4th, and it will be heavily discounted for the first contributors. You can get an email alert to remind you signing up here: www.CounterCrop.com.

Help me help Jack, help the planet & launch CounterCrop by sharing this with your networks, and logging onto Kickstarter when you get the email notice to make your contribution, or buy one for yourself.  Any and all contributions will make a big difference. Here’s to counter culture and sustainable food for all!

The Epic Photo Shoot

Hundreds Of Mountaineers Climb The Alps For Epic Photoshoot

MOMENTS in History:

What cool used to be like

Thanks given to all -including this week’s contributors Larry H, Anu T and Jack A.

Stay peaceful and joyful and pay it forward!

Love,

Neville
Hands

“Lean out in your own way to make a difference in your community,

so that others are inspired to stand up or go out on a limb for what matters”–Neville

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Your Soul Food Friday for Nov 21st 2014: Armistice, Creativity, Love, Learning, Purpose and Pictures

 Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Another View of Veterans Day

               Armistice Day

Creativity: Life Hacks

               46 Things Every Human Being Needs…

Love ALL of It

               By Jon Gordon

Learning: Spotlight on Education

               December 3rd 2014 Featuring Karen Cator of Digital Promise

Purpose: Start with WHY

Your Golden Circle Starts with your PURPOSE

Pictures to Make You Grin

               Levity is the Soul of Wit

Mission Fed Invests One Million Dollars

in Financial Education with JA Finance Park

Another View of Veterans Day The following excerpt is from Kurt Vonnegut’s novel, Breakfast of Champions:

I will come to a time in my backwards trip when November eleventh, accidentally my birthday, was a sacred day called Armistice Day. When I was a boy, and when Dwayne Hoover was a boy, all the people of all the nations which had fought in the First World War were silent during the eleventh minute of the eleventh hour of Armistice Day, which was the eleventh day of the eleventh month.

It was during that minute in nineteen hundred and eighteen, that millions upon millions of human beings stopped butchering one another. I have talked to old men who were on battlefields during that minute. They have told me in one way or another that the sudden silence was the Voice of God. So we still have among us some men who can remember when God spoke clearly to mankind.

Armistice Day has become Veterans’ Day. Armistice Day was sacred. Veterans’ Day is not.

So I will throw Veterans’ Day over my shoulder. Armistice Day I will keep. I don’t want to throw away any sacred things.

What else is sacred? Oh, Romeo and Juliet, for instance. And all music is.

Creativity: Life Hacks

These are brilliant!

Epic Dash

Love All of It- Jon Gordon

I sat for a while staring at the computer screen. I couldn’t write. Not even a sentence. It had been a week since I started to write a new book but I had nothing. Each December I write a new book and it usually flows well, but not this time. This time I was filled with fear.

Fear that I would disappoint the people who enjoyed my other books. Fear that I couldn’t live up to the success of The Energy Bus. Fear that people would say my best writing was behind me. Fear that I would write a piece of junk.

I knew I had to conquer this fear and in that moment I was filled with thoughts that would not only help me overcome my fears but also become a significant lesson in the book I was writing, The Carpenter.

I realized the antidote to fear is love. So instead of the fear of failing I decided to focus on my love of writing, my love for the reader, and my desire to make a difference. From that moment on the book flowed, I wrote it in 2 1/2 weeks and discovered that if you focus on love, you will cast out fear.

Today I want to encourage you to do the same and build your life, work, business, school, project and team with love instead of fear. Remind yourself that if you aren’t building it with love it won’t become all that it can be. Only through love will you create something special, magnificent and compelling. Only through love will you build a masterpiece.

So if you are trying to build a business focus on the love you have of building it rather than the fear of losing it. If you work at a school focus on loving your students instead of fearing all the new testing standards. If you are a young athlete, dancer, musician or artist, focus on your love of playing and performing instead of your fear of failing. Worrying about the outcome and what people think will steal your joy and sabotage your success but loving and appreciating the moment will energize you and enhance your performance.

And if you are a coach or manager building a team, remember that that whatever you try to build with fear will eventually crumble. But that which is built with love will endure. If you build your team with love they will become more and do more than you ever thought possible. Most of all, as you build with love, know that you will face many challenges and negative forces that can shift your focus back to fear if you let it. When this happens decide to LOVE ALL OF IT. When you love all of it you will fear none of it.

Love the struggle because it makes you appreciate your accomplishments.

Love challenges because they make you stronger.

Love competition because it makes you better

Love negative people because they make you more positive.

Love those who have hurt you because they teach you forgiveness.

Love fear because it makes you courageous.

The secret to life and the greatest success strategy of all is to love all of it and fear none of it.

Learning: Spotlight on Education

               December 3rd 2014 Featuring Karen Cator of Digital Promise

If you are local the Spotlight on Education series is definitely worth your time!

Spotlight Flyer 2014 2015 – Karen Cator (2)

Purpose: Start with WHY

Your Golden Circle- Start with your PURPOSE

Learn to Communicate from the Inside Out.

People don’t buy what you do. People buy why you do it!

 

Pictures to Make You Grin

Furry Friends

Mission Fed Invests One Million Dollars

in Financial Education with JA Finance Park

Fiannce Park

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Thanks this week go to Larry H, Ginger T, the teams at Mission Fed, The Education Synergy Alliance, USD’s ELDA, UCSD’s EDS, & Real World Scholars doing Wicked Good Work!

See the Change You Want to Be in the World

Be the Change You Want to See in the World”

Love,

Neville

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Motivation Monday, Veterans Day Tuesday & Soul Food Friday for Nov 14th 2014 – “What you tolerate you teach.”

Happy Soul Food Friday!

“To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.”

“OUR COUNTRY IS IN MOURNING,
A VETERAN DIED TODAY.”

He was getting old and paunchy
And his hair was falling fast,
And he sat around the Legion,
Telling stories of the past.

Of a war that he once fought in
And the deeds that he had done,
In his exploits with his buddies;
They were heroes, every one.

And ‘tho sometimes to his neighbors
His tales became a joke,
All his buddies listened quietly
For they knew where of he spoke.

But we’ll hear his tales no longer,
For ol’ Joe has passed away,
And the world’s a little poorer
For a Veteran died today.

He won’t be mourned by many,
Just his children and his wife.
For he lived an ordinary,
Very quiet sort of life.

He held a job and raised a family,
Going quietly on his way;
And the world won’t note his passing,
‘Tho a Veteran died today.

When politicians leave this earth,
Their bodies lie in state,
While thousands note their passing,
And proclaim that they were great.

Papers tell of their life stories
From the time that they were young,
But the passing of a Veteran
Goes unnoticed, and unsung.

Is the greatest contribution
To the welfare of our land,
Some one who breaks his promise
And cons his fellow man?

Or the ordinary fellow
Who in times of war and strife,
Goes off to serve his country
And offers up his life?

The politician’s stipend
And the style in which he lives,
Are often disproportionate,
To the service that he gives.

While the ordinary Veteran,
Who offered up his all,
Is paid off with a medal
And perhaps a pension, small.

It is not the politicians
With their compromise and ploys,
Who won for us the freedom
That our country now enjoys.

Should you find yourself in danger,
With your enemies at hand,
Would you really want some handy cop-out,
With his ever-waffling stand?

Or would you want a Veteran
His home, his country, his kin,
Just a common Veteran,
Who would fight until the end.

He was just a common Veteran,
And his ranks are growing thin,
But his presence should remind us
We may need his likes again.

For when countries are in conflict,
We find the Veteran’s part,
Is to clean up all the troubles
That the politicians start.

If we cannot do him honor
While he’s here to hear the praise,
Then at least let’s give him homage
At the ending of his days.

Perhaps just a simple headline
In the paper that might say:
“OUR COUNTRY IS IN MOURNING,
A VETERAN DIED TODAY.”

This Week:
Humor: Best of the Best with Steven Wright
               Think Differently

Universality: He For She

A New UN project on Gender Equality

What you tolerate you teach.”
Teaching: Student Athletes Competence AND Character

               Pitch It Forward or Risk a Run Back for “What you tolerate you teach.”

Music: Peter and the Wolf

A Classic for Kids

Photos: Rarely Seen Moments in US History

 Best of the Best with Steven Wright

If you’re not familiar with the work of Steven Wright, he’s the famous erudite (comic) scientist who once said:

“I woke up one morning, and all of my stuff had been stolen and replaced by exact duplicates.”

… He sees things differently than most of us.

Here are some of his gems:

1 – I’d kill for a Nobel Peace Prize.

2 – Borrow money from pessimists – they don’t expect it back.

3 – Half the people you know are below average.

4 – 99% of lawyers give the rest a bad name.

6 – A conscience is what hurts when all your other parts feel so good.

7 – A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

8 – If you want the rainbow, you have got to put up with the rain.

9 – All those who believe in psycho kinesis, raise my hand.

10 – The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.

11 – I almost had a psychic girlfriend … But she left me before we met.

12 – OK, so what’s the speed of dark?

13 – How do you tell when you’re out of invisible ink?

14 – If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.

15 – Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

16 – When everything is coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

17 – Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.

18 -Hard work pays off in the future; laziness pays off now.

19 – I intend to live forever… So far, so good.

21 – Eagles may soar, but weasels don’t get sucked into jet engines.

22 – What happens if you get scared half to death twice?

23 – My mechanic told me, “I couldn’t repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.”

24 – Why do psychics have to ask you for your name.

25 – If at first you don’t succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.

26 – A conclusion is the place where you got tired of thinking.

27 – Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it.

28 – The hardness of the butter is proportional to the softness of the bread.

29 – To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is            research.

30 – The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard

31 – The sooner you fall behind, the more time you’ll have to catch up.

32 – The colder the x-ray table, the more of your body is required to be on it.

33 – Everyone has a photographic memory; some just don’t have film.

34 – If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you.

And the all-time favorite

35 – If your car could travel at the speed of light would your headlights work?

 

He For She

HeForShe videos are part of a new UN project on gender equality:

Teaching Student Athletes Competence AND Character

I am privileged to serve on the Advisory Board of Pitch It Forward. Here was a great Motivational Monday post from this week with two compelling lessons for all of us…

As many of you begin CIF playoffs this week, I want to share with you a link to something that occurred in the Oregon-Utah football game on Saturday. What you will observe is Kaelin Clay, a Utah player, prematurely celebrating a touchdown he had not yet scored, dropping the ball a yard outside the end-zone, from which point the University of Oregon Ducks returned Clay’s fumble 99 yards for at least a 12-point scoring swing. Leaders recognize that every play counts and every play demands your full effort. Leadership has no room for celebrating before the game is over. Continue to work hard, play hard, demand the most of yourselves and your teammates, and listen to and respect your coaches. You will all be leaders if you follow that approach.

On an entirely different note, the UT San Diego published the attached very powerful editorial in Sunday’s paper entitled “The sad rise of casual partisan hatred.” While politically oriented, this editorial is applicable to virtually any situation you encounter today. It references a study conducted by Stanford University and Princeton University professors and states that “Americans increasingly dislike people and groups on the other side of the political divide and face no social repercussions for the open expression of these attitudes.” Where this article applies to you is in the second to last paragraph where the editorial board states “And too many people who should know better don’t push back and accept this casual hatred as the new behavioral norm.” I place everyone in Pitch it Forward in the category of those who know better. Let’s not let casual hatred into our lives. Remember the lesson from session one:  “What you tolerate you teach.”
The sad rise of casual partisan hatred _ UTSanDiego

Peter and the Wolf

If you are local, do enjoy this classic with your family
Thanksgiving

Rarely Seen special Moments of US History:
Rarely Seen Photos

Thanks this week go to Peter S, Larry H, Anne L, Anurag T, Tricia L, Dan E and Pitch It Forward.

Pitch it Forward or risk a Run Back!

Love,

Neville

“One of the penalties for refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.”

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