Your Soul Food For the Friday of Thanksgiving Week 2015: #Giving Tuesday, What Kids Value, 10 Inspirational Ads, Gratitude and Pets Trying to Stay Warm

Happy Soul Food Friday!

cat and bird

This week:

You Have Heard of Black Friday, but how about #Giving Tuesday?

What Kids really Value over the Holidays:

10 Most Inspirational Ads- The Last Three are Amazing!

An Epiphany from a Student of the Power of Gratitude

An Attitude of Gratitude (at Work):

Pets Trying to Stay Warm: Hope you are too…

You Have Heard of Black Friday, but how about Giving Tuesday?


We have a day for giving thanks. We have two for getting deals. Now, we have #GivingTuesday, a global day dedicated to giving back. On Tuesday, December 1, 2015, charities, families, businesses, community centers, and students around the world will come together for one common purpose: to celebrate generosity and to give. It’s a simple idea. Just find a way for your family, your community, your company or your organization to come together to give something more. Then tell everyone you can about how you are giving. Join us and be a part of a global celebration of a new tradition of generosity.

One option to consider…

Giving Tuesday is around the corner!


What is Giving Tuesday?

You’re familiar with Black Friday, right? Retailers offer huge discounts to jump-start holiday spending. In recent years, Cyber Monday was added to the mix.

Thankfully, there’s now Giving Tuesday, a day dedicated to giving back.

This year, we’re asking YOU, our COMPASSION IT comrade, to consider offering a donation to help us expand our reach. As a boot-strapping non-profit, we could use the financial help. We’ve got big plans for 2016 to scale our work and make compassion more accessible around the world. But we can’t do it without your support. Visit our website to learn more about Giving Tuesday and what we have planned for 2016. Also, don’t forget to mark your calendar for December 1! COMPASSION IT-ly, Sara & the COMPASSION ITeam

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What Kids really Value over the Holidays:

10 Most Inspirational Ads Since You are Going to Get Marketed to Anyway…


An Epiphany from a Student of the Power of Gratitude: 3 Reasons Why Thanksgiving is Your Best Holiday

I am grateful to be grateful. I wasn’t always this way. In fact I went through major periods of my life when the repeating song on my inner soundtrack was “Why me?” My life logic was self-defeating…guaranteed to make me unhappy. Life logic is a simple concept. It is how we consistently explain to ourselves why life is the way it is. It’s our inner story of cause and effect. We use it constantly. It is the super-structure of life logic that is constantly giving us strategic instructions about how we might make our life better or at least less worse.

My life logic for nearly 50 years is a framework called “bargaining with universe.” It is based on the belief that if you are a good person you can prevent bad things from happening to you. Now I know…that’s a very foolish belief. Yet it is very common. A famous book was written by a Rabbi titled “Why Bad Things Happen to Good People.” The up shot of the book is…bad things happen…don’t take it personally. Unfortunately that’s not a very satisfying answer. Human beings are very uncomfortable with randomness. So we naturally seek control strategies. The things that really scare us in life are the things we don’t control. Major religions have caught onto this human longing and reinforced our misbelief that if we are good enough God will protect us from bad things. So this becomes the desperate bargain we make. Yet we can’t help but notice that too often the good die young and for some reason Mick Jagger seems both happy and healthy. What’s up with that? That was my question when I was soaking in a bath of frustration surrounded by candles of self-pity after spending nearly a decade with daily bouts of emotional agony over the condition of my life. And no matter how good I tried to be nothing got better. Then my coach said to me. “Man, you are so lucky. Everything that you have feared the most has already happened to you. And look at you, you’re still standing, still fighting. It’s awesome, you have nothing to fear now.” For some reason those were the right words at the right time. I even wrote them down.

For months he’d been trying to explain to me that it is futile to try to protect yourself from all the things you cannot control. He also explained that the only viable life logic is to develop the bone-deep belief that you are stronger than all of life’s tragic disappointments. If you choose to believe that no matter what happens you can be stronger, wiser and even happier because of what your difficulties have taught you…you will be. He asked me to think of people who live by that life logic. I thought of Nelson Mandela and my Mom.

Since that epiphany I have become a student of the power of gratitude. With the explosion of research in positive psychology and the effects of gratitude meditation we now know that science clearly confirms that gratitude is health food for our mind, emotions and even our bodies. (Controlled studies show people who do daily gratitude meditation can lower their blood pressure!) Perhaps the most powerful research on the effects of gratitude is from Richard Wiseman, who has performed numerous studies linking gratitude meditation to behavior change. This is what he has found. Most people who simply write down one thing they are genuinely grateful for each day and focus on their positive feelings for 60 seconds get three beneficial effects over time.

  1. They become more open minded and willing to try new experiences.
  2. They become more optimistic and opportunity oriented.
  3. They project a positive–constructive personality which expands their circle of supportive friends.

It’s simple. The grand effect on the lives of people who live life through the lens of gratitude is they become happier. Wiseman also discovered that gratitude sets up an eco-system of behavior that makes you luckier…that is, you will have more positive opportunities than average. That’s why I love Thanksgiving. It’s a national holiday with a much deeper practical message than just turkey and football. It’s time to take stock of both the good things that we take for granted as well as what we have learned from the tough things that we’ve experienced.

Just think about this. Many experts believe that about 70 billion people have lived their lives on planet Earth. Until about a century ago most parents buried 2 to 3 of their own children before they reached adulthood. A winter cold routinely turned into lethal pneumonia. Starvation and violence were everyday fears. These and countless other hardships were accepted unchangeable conditions. How most of us live today would be a fairy tale for nearly everyone who has lived before us. Truly, of all the people that have ever lived, we have the most to be grateful for. And even if you have gone through a very tough time just remember what my coach said. “You’re still standing, still fighting. You’re awesome. You have nothing to fear now.” Happy Thanksgiving!   Will

NOTE: As you may know, I’m on a mission to rapidly accelerate the impact and influence of women leaders. I feel so strongly about this that I collaborated with an insightful group of women executives to create The Leadership SPA (SMART Power Academy), a 2.5 a day women-only development program. Click here to learn more.

An Attitude of Gratitude (at Work):


create and attitude of gratitude

When we talk about the concept of “value” in business, it rarely has much to do with valuing each other. We’re just not very fluent with the language of positive emotions in the workplace – or with expressing them. What makes that so ironic is that positive emotions – appreciation, caring, kindness, empathy – may be the single most powerful fuel there is for engagement, satisfaction, and performance. hands

Feeling genuinely valued and appreciated is a powerful source of energy. Our research with the Harvard Business Review found that employees who felt they were regularly recognized and appreciated by their leader reported 53% higher focus, 58% higher engagement, and 109% higher likelihood to stay with their organization.

Often, we find ourselves feeling too busy or too stretched to take the time to reflect on and express our gratitude. The problem is that, without intentionality, our tendency is to concentrate on what’s going wrong. Try taking a minute or two to reflect on what or whom you appreciate most. If you do this regularly, you will find yourself more readily focusing on what’s going right. Over time, that will increase your reservoir of positive emotions and in turn, your resilience.

For more tips on how to add more gratitude to your life, check out our Facebook album where you can like, share, and comment on your favorites.


Tony’s blog

The Secret to Sustaining High Job Performance Most companies invest in building the skills of their employees. Few of them systematically invest in building people’s capacity to perform at their best. Read More

top tips

  1. Start a gratitude journal – Keeping track of what you feel grateful for will allow you to return to your lists in the moments that they’re hardest to generate. If you’re struggling to begin a daily practice, the Gratitude app on iOS ($2.99) sends regular reminders to help you get started. You can either make it completely private, or you can share your posts via social media and tag friends who also use the app.
  2. Accentuate the positive – Make a list of activities that you enjoy most and which make you feel best. Intentionally schedule at least one of these activities into your life each week. For example, attend a concert, go bike riding with family members, or take a class. We all bring more energy to the activities we enjoy, and pleasure itself can sustain our energy.
  3. Create a transition ritual – Find an activity that allows you to make a transition from work to home. Take a few minutes to stop at a park, listen to music, or take the time to write in your gratitude journal. The key is that by the time you get home, you’re not still at work


“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” – William Arthur Ward

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Pets Trying to Stay Warm:

Warm Pets

Thanks this week go to Sara S, Louis L, Will M, Sean A, Larry H, and Heart-ists everywhere…


“Thanksgiving dinners take eighteen hours to prepare.

They are consumed in twelve minutes.

Half-times take twelve minutes.

This is not a coincidence.”
– Erma Bombeck

Happy Thanksgiving and Pay it Forward!



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Happy Soul Food Friday for 11/20/15: Here’s to the artist, leader and capacity to soar within YOU!

Ten Years Solo Live:

Take a peek into the creative process of one of modern music’s most innovative artists…

What Really Matters at the End of Life:

From a patient, physician, a hospice and palliative medicine doc, who has seen care from both sides

Fly Like an Eagle!

An eagle’s flight to his handler from the top of the world’s tallest building,the Burj Khalifa, in Dubai.  The eagle would have no idea where that speck of land was or what it looked like. It actually had to pick out and recognize the trainer. You can see him looking, looking, looking for the trainer, invisible to a human eye, then fold his/her wings and dropping like a bullet to that trainer. (Listen how the sound of the wind speeds up when he/she dives.) And notice how smooth the flight is with no camera shake whatsoever. 


Before They Became World Leaders:

Enjoy these pics of then and now…

 Before They Became World Leaders

Here’s to the artist, leader and capacity to soar within YOU!

 Thanks this week go to Larry H, Artists of Life, Healers of Humanity and Leaders at Heart Everywhere!

Please pay it forward…



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Happy Soul Food Friday for November 13th 2015: Get Cheras to Cheras, help Students with Opportunities for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion, and be the Changemaker You Were Destined to Be!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Get Cheras to Cheras

Wherever you are in the world, you can be a Changemaker at

If you are local:

Learn about Youth Success Week Oceanside – January 10-17, 2016 with a planning meeting November 19th

Thank You for Inspiring Our Students with Opportunities for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion

Then enjoy some Spring Promise to lighten your mood as Winter nears…

Get Cheras to Cheras

This clever global vid will get you smiling…

Wherever you are, be a Changemaker at


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If you are local:

Youth Success Week Oceanside – January 10-17, 2016

 Join us for our community Kick-off Thursday November 19th 6pm to learn about this motivating initiative and how you can participate!

CAYS Community Alliance for Youth Success was founded three years ago to bring the community together in support of youth. Come meet Stedman Graham and other founding members, and to be inspired by the vision to create an event that will serve as a national model.

 To learn more go to and be sure to watch our inspiring video. An overview flyer with schedule is attached.

An Opening Event starts the week on Sunday January 10th at the QLN Center, and the week closes with student performances at the Amphitheater on the follow Sunday, January 17th. These are open to all citizens. During the week nearly thirty presenters will deliver sessions to students in Oceanside schools and organizations.

On Tuesday and Thursday a special Leadership Success training presented by Stedman Graham and Steve Farber, is offered free to all business people and citizens.

We hope to see you on November 19th, 6-8pm, QLN Conference Center, 1938 Avenida del Oro, Oceanside, CA 92056.

Please rsvp



CAYS Organizing Committee

Stedman Graham, Stedman and Associates CEO and CAYS co-founder

Bobbi DePorter, LFI President and CAYS co-founder; President of Quantum Learning Network

Luisa Csathy, Founder, Giving Tree Movement

Ken Druck, Founder, Jenna Druck Center

Steve Farber, CEO and Speaker, Extreme Leadership

Neville Billimoria, SVP and Chief Advocacy Officer, Mission Federal Credit Union

Helice Bridges, CEO and Founder, Difference Makers International

Starla Lewis, CEO, C.E.L.L

Marlaine Cover, President, The Global Presence

Tia Ross, CEO, Motivating the Teen Spirit

Marcy Morrison, Career Coach

Lisette Omoss, Community Volunteer, Realtor, Photographer

John Cotter, Speaker, Community Activist, Career Educator

CAYS Committee Chairs:

Program:  Helice Bridges 

Logistics Venues:  Robert MacPhee  

Parent & Student Engagement:  Margaret Malek 

Marketing:  Alexa Morr 

Fundraising: Tia Ross, Ken Druck 

Thank You for Inspiring Our Students with Opportunities for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion

Shout Out Shirts:

I wanted to share with you some photos from Barrio Logan College Institute. We helped gather donations from local Colleges and also made donations from Mission Fed.

At the end of the school day the children pick their shirt from the college they want to go to and they scream from the top of their lungs:

“Who is Going to College?”  

 We are helping to inspire our future leaders!

Bario Logan

 Shout Out Shirts

Finally, Enjoy Some Spring Promise to lighten your mood as Winter nears…

Lighten Your Mood

Thanks this week go to Karen “Sneha-ji” M, the CAYs team, Mission Fed, UC San Diego and the Barrio Logan College Institute, Larry H, and Changemakers everywhere!

Pay it forward



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Your Soul Food of Friday for November 6 2015: Just Start, Don’t Underestimate Women Like RBG, and Pictures from Drones that Will Take Your Breath Away!

Happy Soul Food Friday!








This week:

All’s Well that Begins Well

Just Start

The Notorious RBG: The Supreme Court Just Turned Cultural Icon

Pictures from Drones that Will Take Your Breath Away!


All’s Well that Begins Well so let this vid set the tone:



Just Start with Robin Sharma:

Language is powerful. The words we use drive the deeds we do.

Call a condition a problem and you get to reply to it from the position of a victim.

Speak an excuse, and you get to deliver your power to it, sometimes for a lifetime.


Words can destroy people’s confidence, provoke their greatness, electrify your performance and free entire nations.

Maybe two of the best ones to recite to automaticity so they become a part of your vocabulary are…

…Just start.


Nothing happens until you move!

And once you do, life begins to put the wind behind your sails. The Muse comes out to play. Your best self starts revealing more of its higher nature.




–just start the needle-moving project that will rewire your career


–just start the conversation needed to forgive the unforgiven


–just start the run that will become your marathon


–just start the craft that will raise you to genius


–just start the relationship that will lead you to love


–just start the book that will awaken your thinking


–just start the course that will transform your life


–just start the habit that will shift your productivity


–just start the dream that will change the world.


You’ve been blessed with hidden jewels that lie deep within. These are the talents that slumber, the gifts that lay dormant, and the calls on your life that we all ask you to live.


Without you showing up, shining fully, standing up after you’ve fallen, persisting when you feel like surrendering, we’ll all be less of a human family. Things will be colder. And the world will be less bright.


So please. Just start. We’ll applaud your rise. And watch your star blaze the path that so many will follow.

With love, respect and enormous encouragement.


The Notorious RBG: The Supreme Court Justice Turned Cultural Icon

Ruth Bader Ginsburg has been underestimated for her whole life and her story will blow you away…

Choose YOUR authentic heroes- she is one of mine!



Pictures from Drones that Will Take Your Breath Away!

Seen from a drone.PPS


Thanks this week go to Larry H, Robin S, Citizens that pay for NPR rather than free loading off others- so stories like RBG’s can be aired and shared, Underestimated women everywhere, & Pets that love us unconditionally- often modeling more humanity than “humans”…


Don’t wait. Initiate!

Pay it forward today…



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Happy Soul Food Friday for Oct 30th 2015: The Meaning of Life, Character Matters Honors REAL ED and Natural Quotes

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

Enjoy The Meaning of Life, Character Matters Honors REAL ED, and Natural Quotes

The Meaning of Life

I was in New York last week looking forward to lunch and the waiter greeted us with “What can I do for you”.

I couldn’t resist shooting back “Tell me the meaning of life”.

And he said – without a moment’s hesitation – “To love and be loved”.

I jotted it on my phone. I can remember that more than the meal I ate because not only is he right but if he is – many of us are in big trouble.

We’re too worried about making money.

Handling the stress in our lives.

Dealing with difficult people.

All the money in the world is meaningless if we cannot remember that we’re on this earth first and foremost to love and to be loved

Character Matters: Gratitude is the Queen of Virtues and Empathy is the King

USD’s gem Edward DeRoche is presented the 2015 Sanford N. McDonnell Lifetime Achievement Award, and it is most well-deserved for modeling and mentoring matters of character in education and beyond!

Pick it up at around 11 minutes if you are short on time and experience “REAL ED”…


Pictures and Quotes to Brighten Your Day

Thanks this week go to James R, Pat M, and Larry H.

Stay Positive and Pay it Forward!



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SFF for Oct 23rd 2015: Social Equity, Cultural Diversity & Global Picture-osity

Happy Soul Food Friday

This week: Social Equity and Cultural Diversity

Here is an ROI (Return on Inspiration) poem from the A4E Summit in the past week:

Ode to Empowerment, Owed to the ‘Heart-ist’ in YOU

Inspired by the Presenters at A4E

It’s not important what you look at,

What’s important is what you see,

See me, respect me, remember me.


What good is sight, if you have no vision?

Realize, with re-a-l eyes,

There is no division.


Know your vision and stay true to it,

Through passion, purpose, and strategic partnership.

 Empower a compassion-based, kind comm-unity

Ennoble self-efficacy with universal access to opportunity


See me, respect me, remember me,

My demography won’t determine MY destiny!


Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo

Our world so needs the transmutation in you.

To hide your pain is to hide your power,

This might be your finest hour.

That’ MY sister, MY daughter, MY kin, MY wife,

Love it. Own it. Elevate Your Life!

 You are the change we wish to see,

Let’s manifest it thru A-4-E.

Remember lasting change comes from within,

I will stop now as time is running thin…


Your soul speaks.

Are you listening?

Your soul speaks.

Am I listening?

Is your heart singing yet?

A4E Summit

The Alliance 4 Empowerment (A4E) is a non-profit organization created to empower underserved people with the universal opportunity to live with dignity, self-esteem, respect and love, in the San Diego region and beyond. Our goal is to create inspired, innovative & inclusive communities that are sustainable economically, socially and environmentally, and to develop platforms for full participation of women and youth globally.

A4E provides a hand up instead of a hand out, ensuring recipients thrive through the power of Social Credit loans, rather than a historical dependency on charity.  This unique model strives to overcome poverty at the root level through a more efficient use of capital and innovation. Our primary focus is building financially inclusive communities, by helping hard-working individuals develop their existing skills into profitable, self-sustaining small businesses, in a nurturing, loving and supportive environment.

To attain this goal, A4E partners with existing community organizations. Instead of working in silos, A4E  collaborates with other effective nonprofits to identify as well as work with qualified social entrepreneurs to leverage global connections with the expertise to enable them to maximize their impact, increase employment and use resources sustainably. Knowing that access to affordable quality health care is essential for communities to thrive economically and socially, A4E advocates for community access to quality healthcare and wellness programs, that contribute to long-term growth and prosperity.

Here is a link to the first part of the A4E summit:

As a sampler, you might want to listen to the two keynotes by UC San Diego Vice Chancellor Dr. Becky Pettit, starting at 36:16 and Dr. Twyla Garrett, Senior Advisor to Homeland Security at 1:07 as their stories will definitely strike a chord as they set the stage for the day!

Usher’s New Video Confronts Racial Injustice Like You’ve Never Seen

“It is important not only to feel the issue but to face it.” #DontLookAway

Mixed Race Indians Celebrating Cultural Diversity

Being a mixed race Indian child myself this article resonated for me…

 “What are you?” might just be the most commonplace question every Indian child learns to respond to, dodge, or deflect, depending on how they feel about the person who’s doing the asking. Ethnicity, race, and personal identity continue to forge an inexplicable link the world over—often highlighting our differences rather than bringing us together. The latter two, however, are aspects of the human experience we consider far too little…

Amazing Pictures From Around The World

Thanks this week go to all the inspired souls at  A4E, the Cathedral Clan in Bombay and now distributed world-wide, everyone focused on building inclusive communities and Larry H for the pics!

Pay it Forward…



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Your Soul Food Friday for October 16th 2015: Resilience, The Earth’s Prayer, 70th Anniversary of the UN, Save Neville the Dog and Some Photos that will Blow Your Mind!

Happy Soul Food Friday!

This week:

  • Resiliency and Risk Taking
  • The 21st Century Earth’s Prayer to Complement the Timeless Lord’s Prayer
  • Invitation | Gala Luncheon | 70th Anniversary of the United Nations | Oct 24, 11-2pm
  • Save Neville the Dog
  • Incredible Photos to Commence the Weekend:

 Resiliency and Risk Taking:

In the past week, San Diego Grant Makers held their annual conference with an underlying theme of risk taking and resiliency. These quotes during a plenary session featuring California State Assembly Speaker Toni Atkins, and California Endowment Director of Healthy Communities Beatriz Solis, facilitated by San Diego Grant Makers CEO Nancy Jamison really resonated for many of us…


The Earth’s Prayer to Complement The Lord’s Prayer

It is crazy that I wrote this in 2009 after being inspired on a trip to Europe, yet it seems as timely today as when inspiration struck.

I am guessing Pope Francis would agree with me…

“Leaving an inhabitable planet to future generations is first and foremost, up to us.” —Pope Francis

The Earths Prayer

Invitation | Gala Luncheon | 70th Anniversary of the United Nations | Oct 24, 11-2pm

My friend Bettina Hausmann is the President of the United Nations Association in San Diego.  They are having a really amazing event to celebrate United Nations day on October 24th, 2015 that coincides with the 100 year celebration of Balboa Park, the 70th anniversary of the UN, and the UNA-SD connection with Eleanor Roosevelt, who was instrumental in getting the UNA-SD started 69 years ago. Her grandson will be a featured speaker, which is really cool!

Please attend if possible and equally important if you could broadcast this widely to your networks that would be GREATLY appreciated.  Bettina and her team are rallying the San Diego region to display its global connectedness (see information below and feel free to forward as you see fit).

UN Day 2015_SaveTheDate

Save Neville the Dog: I couldn’t resist this…

Change 1

Change 2

Change 3

Incredible Photos to Commence the Weekend:

Photos Incoyables

Thanks this week go to Grant Makers everywhere, Quadruple Bottom Line leaders focused on people, planet, profits and purpose, Bettina H & Alan D, change agents that stand up for the plight of those that can’t, and Larry H for continuing to feed me soul food that I can share with you!
Pay it forward…



“Leaving an inhabitable planet to future generations is first and foremost, up to us.” —Pope Francis

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